Just for Laughs...Cowardliness

I know from my previous post I told you a man should act tough no matter their fears but there are so many incidents that happened, those I heard, saw and experienced which left me speechless. I kept wondering, "What was he thinking?", but then concluded that, only men could do that.

I still fail to understand what goes on a man`s mind when he faces a close to death situation, I have never seen anything as coward as a man. I know people will not agree with me but its the truth, well not all men are cowards but those who are, go beyond the word coward, those who will scream and run away from their own shadow.

So, we were at the cattle-post and this cousin of mine went to collect ostrich eggs. He went ridding on a donkey, so he collected, and as he was leaving, the ostrich saw him and came running after him. For some reason he felt that the donkey was not running as fast as he wanted and the ostrich was approaching. Guess what he did! He jumped off the donkey and opted for his God given legs. You can imagine the screams he made when the donkey now passed him and vanished before his eyes, and what happened next, I cant tell... And I couldn't help wondering, "What was he thinking?". He never came close to number 5 at school in athletics...or maybe he forgot.

And then these guys got robbed at night, it was a few hours after they got home from the night club, they were tired and fell into deep sleep. Luckily for them, the robbery went so well because one of them was not drunk and managed to wake up as soon as the thief broke the window. The thief pointed something black at him (that's what he said, and apparently it was the handle of the pot) and immediately he raised his hands #I am sure he watch too much action movies#. Anyway, so the thief whispered "Hey where is your phone and wallet?" This guy couldn't even speak, he just collected them and gave them to the thief through the window."What about your friends? Search them", asked the thief again. Our poor guy did exactly that and handed the items to the thief. As if this was not enough, the thief asked "Is this the only room, go and search the other rooms and come back!" I am sure we know what he did, exactly that! The last instruction was "Now go back to sleep. Sharp!" What was he thinking? hehehehe. Men and their cowardliness....

My grandfather used to tell us about his friend who always practiced how he was going to run away in case they got attacked when they went hunting for lions and leopards back then. And I always thought it was a joke. Any slight movement from the shrubs, he was ready to go and they never gave him a gun or bottle of water, or food, because they knew he will run away with them. They gave him a cup and he will make sure its tied tightly on his waist and that it wont disturb his hands when he is running. He will pace around the yard before they left just to make sure!...ha men! 

Women are courageous, don't even argue that one....

What it means to be a man!

Like other people, I also have prepared a little speech to commemorate International Men`s day; and here is how it goes.

I thank God today for making us all see this day. There is time for everything in life and like any other day God created this day. They are the people we love to hate. Go to any women`s forums and hear how evil these people are, how cruel, how inhuman. Listen to the names they are given, ranging from "dog" to "ramoshwe". All those for being a man!

But God never forsake them, and today He made us remember them and celebrate them for they are special in their own way. And as I looked around in men in my life, I couldn't stop wondering what it really means to be a man, and I realized that being a man means a lot of things.

What it means to be a man!

1.  “Being a man means being able to fold a map and never stop for directions.”
2.  “Being a man means getting yelled at for forgetting to put the seat down.”
3. If another guy shows up at the party in the same outfit, you just might become lifelong friends.
4. The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades. but pay a fortune for her woman`s hairstyle.
5. You spend your hard earned money to take your children to school and when they grow up they celebrate mothers' day....!
6. After buying a ring, you'll need a woman to confirm whether you get married or not.
7. You have to act tough no matter your fears.
8. You feel compelled to make money, and then to throw it away in public.

These are not jokes, but the truth. Men make sacrifices everyday their entire life for their families, their friends, colleagues and even strangers. They always put their happiness aside for those they love but who cares?? I mean really??? They are our fathers, our uncles, our brothers, our sons, our husbands, our boyfriends, our dear friends....

I want us all to take this day and think of all the good, funny, weird things men do for us  and appreciate. Let them know we love them no matter what, for they are who they are, MEN! and we are proud of them. And to our baby boys "Grow up to be a man!"

A friend that you are!

Friendship used to be easier when we were kids, when sitting next to each other in class, eating and playing together was all that was needed. Then came adulthood with all its challenges, frustrations, expectations, responsibilities and complications, and friendship became something we have to tiptoe around. At times I wish I never grew up!

Its easier to label someone else as a good friend or bad friend, but do we know what type of friends we are to other people? Well, some of us know! you see, everyone act differently to different individuals. At times you are not even aware that you are such a bad friend or good friend. Friendship is just how you relate with other people and most of the time its influenced by your upbringing, what you went through in life.

Before I wrote this post, I wanted to share with you guys some of the bad friends we might have, but then as I was jotting down the types of these friends and how they behave, I couldn't stop finding some of these traits on me. Oh My God! I am such a bad friend, I console myself by reminding myself that "No one is perfect" but that's not enough. Transformation is what I am undergoing from now on, for a good friendship is a healthy relationship.

Now to the point, Judge yourself before you could judge anyone else;

1. Opportunist--->Are you friends with them because there is something you want to gain from the friendship, maybe you want to get close to their friends. You ask for their help but never return a favor. You are always too busy for them.... bad bad friend!

2. Self-centered--->your conversations are all about you, "I want this, i bought this, i have this and that". Its hard to notice this one but, if you are the one who is always talking and people are always listening to you. Bad habit!

3.Victim----->you are always complaining, want people to feel sorry for you. Always blaming other people for the hardships in your life. Hey hey, cheer up, you are sulking the moment. You are a bad friend period!

4. Clingy---->you don't want to share your friend with other people, you complain about their other friends to an extent of separating them with those friends. You are just lonely, and by the time you find someone more important e.g. significant other, you will ditch your friends only to come back when things go wrong again..what can I say, you know what you are!

5. Fake---->you smile in your friend's face and the moment she/he is not around you put them down verbally. not a friend at all!

6. Competitor-->you always want to know what your friends are up to, you want to have their friends, their boy/girlfriends. They buy a car, then you make sure you also buy a car. They get married, you also want to get married. You take their ideas and make them yours. Unhealthy competition I tell you.

I could go on and on.....

The Friends We Have (Part 1)

What I write here is inspired by what happens in my life. For some unknown reasons, fate brings friend to a friend and leaves everything to human nature. While a few special friendships last a lifetime, the vast majority prove easier to leave behind.

We all have friends and we all need friends in our lives. As they say "The company we keep can make or break us", its critical to understand the kind of friends you have. Are they making you or Are they breaking.???

This post will concentrate on good friends which are worth keeping. I have read a few posts and quotes on friendship and there are many kinds of friends,but I only picked 7 types which I can really relate with or the type of friends I have in my cycles on this lifetime. Mind you these are good friends we should have;

1. Mentor----->Acts like a mother, she motivates you, help you when you need them. They are not always there in your life but every meeting, or call with them brings the best out of you. They know more than you do and they are like your role model.
2. Honest Friend--->will tell you like it is, whether you like it or not, they are brutally honest but not mean. They are the kind of friends who will tell you that your boy/girlfriend is cheating on you, or that that shirt doesn't look good on you and will go to an extent of finding you something suitable
3. The Listener---->A friend who would make time for you, who would listen to the drama and difficulty in your life without judgement and without interrupting or giving advice (unless you ask). They provide a shoulder to cry on.
4. Mentee----->Someone usually younger than you who look up to you as a mentor and you give advice to.
5. The Challenger---->Someone who lives a totally different life from you, you continually argue with because you dont share the same philosophy when it comes to life, but you learn a lot from on the process.
6. Risk Taker---->adventurous, will make you do things out of your comfort zone, brings about new and best aspect of yourself you never thought you had.
7. Comic Relief--->Will make you laugh your lungs out. Funny characters you cant live without. Whether in good or bad times, they will lift your spirit up, when you are bored, they are the first to come to your mind. Usually meet them for fun.

What other type of good friends did I leave out?

All that for a blister on the foot!!!

Ok... like I said the diary was not the purpose of this blog. But before I could tell you its purpose, some flashbacks have been running through my mind, i really tried to ignore them, believe me. But they are so intense, reminding me of that feeling when you have a crush on someone and you don't want them to notice... hehehehe #hiding#

Over the weekend Femina-Woman held a convention which its purpose was to empower women and re-ignite their dreams, what a session! The speakers were so on point, professionals in motivational speaking. Their speeches could just lift you up and you could see your dream so clear you could even touch it. But I guess that's the purpose of motivational speaking. Saying this as if I was there to listen to those brilliant speeches...Ija! I couldnt even sit down to listen to the whole speech of  any of the speakers. What i got was a blister on the foot from running around preparing for the guests and making sure everything goes as planned. Yeah! those are the fruits of organising.......

You know making our dreams come true is something we all want AND yet something most of us fail to achieve. Fear always consume us whenever we try to make a move towards our dreams. And the one thing i managed to grab from the convention apart from the blister is The fact that, we all need a mentor in our lives.(will get into it some other time).

I cant stop wondering how far I would have gone if I had a mentor, someone to remind me everyday that I can do it, that I am capable. Someone to help me through my fears and hold my hand and tell me "We will get through this together", I swear I would have climbed up and down those electric stairs I fear so much.....

Many people are scared of the "unknown." The unknown can branch out to many areas such as the hereafter, the next ten years, or even tomorrow. Many people are too scared to take the path they want to, because of what may lie ahead. We fear our own dreams....

Face your Fears and you will be able to Face the World........

About Me!

Every year January I buy a small book, sort of a journal and keep it as a diary. A diary means different things to all of us, but for me its a personal book where i write anything, sometimes even those unimaginable. Its not the story of my life since its not about how i feel that day, what happened to me or anything of that sort BUT yes its the story of my life only understandable to me showing me where I am coming from and where I am going... hahaha from:

•  birthdays,
•  important contacts, 
• to do list for each day, 
• my monthly budget, 
• what i want to buy for my home each month, 
• what i want to achieve at the end of the year,
• minutes of the meetings i attend
• Special quotes
• My dreams, 
• my achievements
• some handy tips

Its funny how all these can be done electronically using phones, computers but I prefer the old-fashioned way. Yes I am computer literate, have a laptop, using a smartphone(not really but kind of...) so you get the point. I have all these diaries for each year. The only things I transfer from my previous diary to the new one are the things i wanted to achieve but couldn't achieve that year and I still want to achieve.

And this year just a month ago I lost my diary for this year, just towards the end of the year.!!! You can imagine... I didn't realize the power behind these diaries until I lost that diary. Believe me when I say my life was at stand-still for close to a month. I knew what i needed to do for that month but couldn't do it because now it was like everything was scrambled up. Stressed, unproductive, annoyed, can't even explain the feeling..

But that aside, this is not the purpose of this blog..... I LOVE WRITING. And thats it!! But we can save that for another day, isnt it?????